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Notes From the Field

Who's Healing Who?

9/14/2024

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I only want to understand her and for her to understand me, and
for us to feel ourselves as one - one mind, one heart, one love.

But she's not easy - my little mare Secret. She never was. She was born
in the middle of the night to a struggling Mama as her first and only
surviving baby. And Mama died, only eight weeks later, from intestinal
impaction, leaving a

confident, opinionated, red-headed child, with an easygoing "Aunt" and "Uncle"
who couldn't teach her the way that Mama could: It takes a strong woman
to raise one.

So Secret grew up a strange combination of sensitivity and rebelliousness,
sweetness and sassiness, keenly intuitive, yet ready to blow you off
at a moment's notice if you don't keep up.

She has taught me more than any horse I've ever known.

She can't be tamed with dominance, nor can she be coaxed with kindness.
​"Natural" horsemanship methods almost ruined her.

Like a candle she flickers from pissy to shut down, from bitchy to dejected.
If you miss the worry in a barely arched brow or the tension in her
soft upper lip, she will pin her ears and walk away,

Clueless human. You missed it. Too late.

And so I'm done with the goals like flying lead changes and bareback gallops
through the neighbor's pasture. I only want her respect. And love.
And her trust - one moment at a time.

Because in her eyes I see my reflection - a sensitive child with shifting moods - made shiftier still because no one noticed

the wrinkled brow, or the far-away eyes, or the shut-down resignation
of good-girl compliance.


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Shame: A Clearer Seeing

4/25/2024

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This morning I am thinking about shame, or more accurately, shame is thinking me. For in truth, there is no thinker here, but thinking does indeed happen. And last night a friend was talking about how desperately she wanted to be seen by her father. And as she grew, she made herself into a tomboy so that she could be the "son he never had." Later, she used her body and sexual energy as a way to be seen by men. Later still, she experienced a lot of shame about sex and using it to heal this daughter-daddy wound.

Of course, like many little girls, I resonate with the invisible-girl-child syndrome - never feeling like I was doing enough, or doing something good enough. It created a louder, more expressive, performance-oriented version of Shelly. As a young girl, I took on the character of confidence and bravado. It got me lots of smiles and chuckles of approval from my Dad; I guess because he was a bit of a narcissist, he liked it when I acted like him. And perhaps it was a character, an energy, that he adopted as a way to overcome profound insecurity. I cannot know. From this, his daughter's perspective, it still seems that he was simply kind of a jerk. In any case, being more like him or adopting this character strategy, felt better than being frowned upon or ignored.

As I grew into adulthood, like my friend, I began to feel ashamed of this bolstered character, this trying-to-get-Daddy's-approval strategy. Personal-Growth-Shelly was embarrassed that I was ever inauthentic and had succumbed to adopting such a gross and almost cartoon-like character. Spiritual-Seeking-Shelly was mortified that I ever "put on airs." Wasn't humility a necessary ingredient to being or becoming enlightened?

And here's where it hit me this morning.
I was feeling the urge to write or speak - to share. And I dove deeper into the wanting-to-share energy, suspicious, as I typically am, of what was driving it. Was I wanting to get my ego stroked? Was I wanting to bolster my sense of self by taking on the role of "teacher?" Was I simply bored and needed to fill a hole? Was I trying to use "sharing" as a way to feel connected to other people? Was I wanting to contribute something as a way to establish my worth? Was I being egotistical, as my partner once suggested? And somewhere, in the background, shame was tucked carefully within the character of Good-Person-Shelly, who thought, This is healthy - this questioning, this examining. This way I don't hurt anybody. This way I'm not using other people to get my needs met. And then I caught it, this sneaky shame energy: Wait a minute. Can shame actually be good? And once I got a glimpse of this layer, a deeper, less-acknowledged shame layer arose that said, It's good to always question myself because that way I'm less likely to behave in such a way that other people won't like me.

And then I remembered an eleven-year-old girls' slumber party. One of the girls had organized a kangaroo court. Each of us was brought up on "charges," except her of course: She was the judge. (This friend-group tyrant grew up to be a therapist, which I think is kinda fun). We were given two choices as to how to atone for our crimes. I was accused of "bragging" about my mini-bike. I had gotten a mini-bike when I was ten and absolutely loved it. I rode all over the neighborhood on that thing and I guess, like horses, it gave me a sense of freedom. It could take me places faster and farther than I could go on my own two feet and its power became my power, which also felt great. I was absolutely blind-sided by this accusation. Had I really been bragging? I was so confused. Still, to this day, I can't remember bragging, but at some point I decided that it must be true and that there was something wrong with my enthusiasm, something wrong with how I "shared" my joy, something maybe about the intensity of it that was perceived as bragging. And of course I was somehow wrong or less-than for not being able to see it. Maybe I was stupid, maybe I was selfish. I wasn't sure. But clearly there was something screwed up about me or this wouldn't have happened.

With shame, it seems, there's no way out. You're fucked if you do and you're fucked if you don't. If you don't express yourself, then you don't get seen or heard. If you do, you run the risk of being seen as egotistical or bad. This morning I'm aware of how shame checks me: Why am I doing this? What's driving my desire to share? To write? And underneath it, I don't want to be being bad and somehow not know that I'm being bad because that would be bad.

I'll have to say that sharing in hopes to be seen or heard, never satisfies - not for long anyway. And this I've learned the hard way. But did I need shame to teach me that? Actually, I simply needed awareness - awareness of energy and how it feels in my body. When the impulse to share arises, it feels free and light - natural - kinda like riding my mini-bike, like something bigger than me is powering me, carrying me. But then what happens? Does my bodymind contract with doubt before I even get started? Sit on your hands and say, 'I hate my mini-bike' ten times, was my punishment for the crime of sharing my joy, my full-tilt exuberance. And so still, I sit on my hands, not hating my mini-bike, but hating myself or parts of myself - hating or at least being suspicious of energies we might call excitement, pride, expressiveness, celebration, intensity, and even joy and happiness.

Shame tells us that these energies are bad or might be. But how can they be bad? Like my friend who realized that sexual energy wasn't any more "bad" than hunger energy or tired energy, I'm reminded that none of the energies that make us human, including shame, are bad. They are simply energy forms, whose quality of contraction is the only thing that distinguishes one from the other. Shame energy is getting special attention today, because I'm realizing more clearly that it's an energy that follows most of the others - like an obedient dog it says, Whatever feeling you feel, I'm gonna follow, adding another layer of contracted energy to the contracted energies you're already feeling, so that you feel so weighed down that you can't ride that mini-bike or write this piece or share it anywhere - in case you're seen, in case you're not.

So sweet shame, it seems you are with me. But I see you more clearly: You are not me, just what's happening. 

I write today with much less bodily tension than I would have a year ago. I write today with much less second guessing than I would have last week. And this we call growth and say that it's good. But maybe what happened before wasn't bad: It was just different, different energies happening - in the form of memories, in the form of bodily tension, in the form of emotions - and how fun it is to notice, to ride these energies freely, to be ridden by them freely, and to share the joy of mini-bike-freedom, with you.




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Two People. One Energy.

4/13/2024

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They'd been married for 36 years. They each had successful careers and had raised and launched two children. But she came to see me in tears. She'd tried and tried to get him to understand, tried and tried to say things the right way, with the right tone of voice, at the right time, so that it wouldn't turn into an argument - the same one they'd had over and over again for years. The specifics might be different, the context might vary, but the pattern was the same. He would comment about something she was doing or the way she was doing it, she would get defensive, he would resist her defensiveness by getting defensive himself, she would get angry, he would get angrier, and then she would shut down and become very small.

Then one day, in the heat of one of these arguments, he asked her, Why do you get so upset? You act like I'm doing something horrible to you? . . . "It's because my father beat me," she said, simply and softly. Thump. Stunned silence. And then, What? and he stepped to her and held her, I'm sorry. I didn't know. 

What is it about the raw, unfiltered, non-blaming, organic truth, when it comes from the deep dark recesses of forgetting, that cuts through the layers of defensiveness, and opens us to compassion? 

The thing is, on some level, he felt it, knew all along there was something there.
We are feeling, sensing beings, and even the most unaware of us, can sense energies we don't understand or don't necessarily stop and take the time to pay any attention to: There's so much busyness, so much mind-clutter that gets our front-and-center attention. 

But in the space of feeling, when talking and feeling go hand in hand, when the what's-happening-now is all that's here, something beyond our mind-made preconceived notions and perceptions can arise.

And I think of Rumi's poem, Ali In Battle. Just before he's about to fatally slay his opponent, Ali's opponent spits in his face, and Ali, the great wise warrior, steps back and withdraws his sword. His opponent is shocked and asks why he has spared him. Ali explains it this way: "Your impudence was better than any reverence, because in this moment I am you and you are me." Rumi suggests that like Ali, we learn how to fight without our egos participating. As "God's lion" Ali "did nothing that did not originate from his deep center."

We are all One energy. One Life. When the unarguable, fully-embodied truth is spoken, it resonates with the listener and the listener recognizes it as truth. It's not the mind-fabricated truth of opinion. It's not the truth of projection. It's the truth of life as energy, expressing through one, and felt, as energy, by the other. But how can an energy really belong to one, if it can also be intuitively felt by another? Doesn't the other carry the same energy? Wouldn't he have to in order to recognize it?

It is this we-are-one-energy recognition that heals and transforms - not as a spiritual concept, but as a felt experience. When we meet each other naked, on the open clear battlefield of energies, and bring those energies forth as divine expression, we level the playing field: Neither of us is better than the other, we are the same - both feeling energy beings, recognizing ourselves in the other.
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The Healing Power Of Illness

3/16/2024

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First it came from my gallbladder - a bitter resentment and anger, a sour taste from the past that left me queasy and worried enough to call the doctor. Then blood tests revealed glucose gone crazy - levels off the charts. Glucose, gleukos, the "sweet delightful wine," the sweet fuel of life was running rampant in my body with no place to go. The systems designed to receive it, to take it in for fuel and nourishment, wanted no part of it. They were rejecting it in stubborn defiance.

Conversations with my partner (using the couples dialogue, designed to allow hurt feelings to flow without shredding the other), revealed, I'm so angry. And the not voiced, less responsible version: You say you're there for me but you're really not. It's always been this way. And a 20-years-behind-us, Why didn't you marry me like you said you would and now here I am, alone, with little or no support when something like this happens? And feeling a hurt and an anger that I had not allowed myself to feel, turning away instead in stubborn I-don't-need-you independence.

And I remember the first time it happened - the prized pinto pony delivered to our house on my ninth birthday and a little girl's resistance to hugging her father. The details are foggy but the felt-sense is clear: I don't want to hug you because I'm mad. I'm mad at you. I don't like you. This doesn't fix everything. You're mean. I don't like you and I'll never, ever forgive you. Leave me alone.

So the shell of defiant protection was already in place and I shunted my hurt and my love to my pony and all the other horses who came after. They were my safe place - a safe place to put my longing - for connection, for merger, for love and mutual respect.

I know, I know, classic horsegirl story - horses good, men bad. Why didn't I see it before now, you might ask. Lots of reasons really. But the more insidious one is that lovely phenomenon we call spiritual bypassing. Post awakening experience(s), I still tend to reject, unconsciously, usually so quickly that I don't even notice, anything that smells like needing anything or anyone to make me feel happy and fulfilled. So when the surface level energy of I need love arises, I probably, still, tend to retract back into myself, without taking the time to listen and feel it. Old patterns die hard, like the grooves on an old record album entrenched with wear - even after you've "seen the light."

So the longing for love remains, encased in an encrusted shell of denial and protection. But I awoke this morning remembering a dream: My partner was in bed behind me, spooning me. He literally had my back. And in my less defended, still-dreamy state, I let myself feel it, let myself surrender to it, and let it soak in. And then my heart opened. The crusty encasement of hurt was gone and the power and beauty of my longing flowed through my body and my limbs and tissues and organs who said, Yes. Welcome home. 

Whiney, resisting-the-way-it-is, heart-detoured, head longing, is a trap. Full-bodied love longing is your true inheritance. You, we, long for love because love is who we are. And once the longing is set free, it doesn't need the right conditions or someone special to love, because it transcends personal love. And when it flows as Itself, It blesses everyone in Its path. But mostly It blesses the lover, who knows herself as the One love - lover and beloved. 

I am not symptom free. There are more tests scheduled and the bitter taste of anger and hate still hangs in the background, somewhat relieved but still twinging. But this morning I am open, open as love, open as longing, while writing the poem below. 

Thank you gallbladder, thank you insulin resistance, for the wake-up call, for the much-needed nudge. Thank you Life, for trying to heal me.



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Longing recognized,
is sweet.

Whole-body longing
for love and connection
aligns you with
your inescapable
humanness.

No matter where you go,
no matter what you do,
this longing follows you
like an obedient dog.

If you ignore it,
if, in your hurt
you turn away

its shadow
will drag you
into
itself

until you become
a calcified shell

dragging resentment
around
as your only
friend.

But if you can claim
your longing,
allowing the pain
of encasement
to break,

your body will open
your heart,
pouring its Light,
as a blessing,

releasing the Love
that you are

to fulfill Its Self.


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What You Were Made For

2/7/2024

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You were made to feel. I can't say this enough. I say it to you. I say it to myself. Because it seems that no matter how much stuff I clear from my bodymind and how much freer I've become, there remains an energy, a tendency, to judge certain feelings, to think "I'm not doing it right," because of the feelings I'm feeling.

It's not my fault - this judgment. I came by it honestly. Because it seems that embedded in the human psyche is the story that emotionality is bad. 

At one time in our evolution we probably acted on our feelings impulsively, resulting in "bad" consequences. When we were mad at somebody, we probably just clubbed them over the head. At some point, in order to become civilized, in order to achieve social order, it became important to control our emotional impulses, to have mastery over them. This evolved into an increasing bias towards rationality, valuing our intellects, and using them to try to master those less "evolved" emotions. This ability, we have believed, is what makes us superior to the animals.

The popularity of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy is a reflection of this bias. CBT suggests that if we just control what we think, we can control how we feel. This is a load of crap. Feelings happen. Feelings are energy. The nature of energy is movement. Energy moves and we feel stuff. Emotional energy is biological, chemical, and electrical, just like the other physiological processes that happen in a human body. For example, feelings happen when you smell certain smells. You don't have to think, "my grandmother's house," to feel warm, happy feelings of your grandmother's house when you smell apple pie. It just happens - automatically. 

Our friends the animals do not have the capacity for rational thought, but if you've spent any time training or living with horses, you know damn well that they feel. I have one little mare who probably feels and expresses five different feelings in under a minute - depending on what we're doing and what I'm teaching her. (She is, by the way, one of the happiest little horses you'll ever meet. I'm assuming it's because she doesn't feel guilty for the nasty faces she makes at me, nor does she try to justify them. She doesn't reflect on her fear of the plastic bag and try to think through it rationally. She doesn't make her feelings into a problem to be analyzed or fixed. Feelings happen, she feels them, and then they're gone - no problem).

Do the stories in our heads create feelings? Yes. Do the stories we create in response to our feelings exacerbate those feelings? Absolutely. But I'm tired of people, often women people, and especially therapist-women people, coming to see me and 
feeling bad about themselves, feeling inadequate somehow, not good enough or healed enough, just because they're feeling strong feelings. 

Feelings are what it means to be human. If you don't believe me, ask Barbie. After watching the movie for the fourth time, (yes, I had to watch it four times. It took me three times to notice and get why Weird Barbie was always in a split), one of the final scenes still haunts me. Barbie is standing with her creator saying that she wants to be human and her creator says, “I can’t in good conscience let you take this leap without you knowing what it means. Take my hands. . .  Now, close your eyes. . .  Now feel.”  And while Billie Eilish's plaintive What Was I Made For? plays in the background, we see image after image of young girls and women feeling - feeling all kinds of feelings that humans feel - sadness, anguish, fear, rapture, love. Then the camera turns back to Barbie, who after seeing and feeling what it means to be human, says softly and unflappably, Yes.

Even now, tears well behind my eyes and there's a slight constriction in my throat as I remember the power and quiet simplicity of this scene: "So being human is not something I need to ask for . . . It's something that I just become?" That's right Barbie. Now feel.

And as I sit with the tightening throat, a pressure in my chest wants to build and spread with something that's almost too big for me, something greater than my human self can put into words or contain. It's the bright white light of big love that swells in compassion for all of us: What courage it takes to become human!

What courage it takes to show up, to say yes, and feel.


I love you,

Shelly
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New Year's Wish

1/1/2024

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There is only this moment,
burning bright and empty as
a night full of stars, and a
beaming awareness of This.
Only This.

Nothing else matters.
Nothing else is real.

Everything you ever were or are,
everything you ever wanted, is here,
right now.



This is the peace I wish for you, dear friend, for this year, this day, and this moment.

It is our only real security in an ever-changing world. It is a glowing constant on which everything else appears - our feelings, our thoughts, and all that happens.

Many ask, "How do I get there? How do I achieve this state of lasting peace?"

In truth, there is no "there" to get to because it's already here. Arriving home happens, not with a movement toward something, but as a falling away of everything not It.

This falling away is a death, an unclenching of a contracted sense of me and mine - my feelings, my beliefs, my life.

My intention in the coming year, is to make this "death" easier for you.


This death, this awakening, whether we're talking many little ego deaths, or actual death, is inevitable. As an expression of the one Life, your return to and collapse back into It, will happen sooner or later. And as long as you're here, in physical form, Life will continue to do what Life does - tickle, prod, and poke at your contracted-ness, inviting you to let go, to come home.

My "job," my secret joy, is to help you make this homecoming, this letting go, easier for yourself. Surrender is not hard, but our resistance to it hurts like hell.

But please don't add resistance as another problem to be fixed: that's just more resistance. Resistance is just an energy like any other energy. And like any other energy, it will only transform in the light of your non-judging awareness. 

So I say, bring it! Bring your resistance. Let's make a safe space for it. Let's acknowledge it as a fundamental aspect of our humanness, because let's face it, without it we would all be free, we'd all be "enlightened," we'd all be walking on water.

So today I'm wishing you ease in the coming year - not a get-everything-just-right-so-nothing-hurts kind of ease, but the kind of ease that comes with a growing capacity to make a space for all of your feelings, including your resistance, so they can all be transformed in the Light of your compassionate awareness, the awareness that's always here, the awareness that you already are.

May you know yourself as That.
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A Christmas Letter To My Parents

12/25/2023

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I dedicate this Christmas to you
Mom and Dad.
You didn't love me perfectly
in many ways you fell short -
years of therapy speak to that.
But you knew how to love us
at Christmas.

It seemed that everything you were
and everything you did,
the rest of the year,
was cultivated and held tight
until it burst forth at Christmas - 
Mom's talent for cooking and making things beautiful,
Dad's for making and managing money,

and as you got older
you seemed to get younger
with a mischievous delight
in conjuring and conspiring
to cast a magical spell on all of us at Christmas.

I suppose the truth of you,
the most essential Is-ness of you
expressed Itself best at Christmas,

and that energy, that magic, lives in me:
It would have to. Sixty-three years
of the heady stuff, seeping into me,
sponge that I was (and still am).

And now I'm home alone on
Christmas Day, full of your love,
full of your magic, bursting open
with something that cannot be named
only felt - a joy, a right-ness,
a light that lives and is always here,
yet seems especially bright at Christmas,

because you were here, because you loved,
because you simply be'd you, and allowed,
for whatever reason, the light of Christmas
to break you open and bless us all.

And now it lives in me, as me,
just as it lived as you.

So you see? You never died.
The house is sold and you're both buried,
but you're here, in me. And the magic you made
lives through my hands and my heart and 
my words, blessing others . . . forever.

See what you did?

I love you.

​Merry Christmas.

​



More Christmas posts:

Your Light
The Light Of Awareness

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Life. Brilliant Life.

7/27/2023

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I'll never forget my sister's green dress,
soft as moss, and softer still
her embrace, made delicate by
tear after tear of letting go - finally

and my long lost cousin, tall as a mountain,
his quiet strength and eyes,
oh the eyes, and when they met mine
we knew, we just knew

and my brother-in-law's speech
full of confidence and bravado, as is
his way, whose voice broke humbly
when he mentioned his daughter, who died
years ago

and the brightly lit luncheon, where
everyone noticed the patchwork quilts
decorating the walls, intricately, carefully
stitched, popping with color and texture
here and there, like the pop of energy, the pop 
of Life, like flowers bursting, or popcorn 
popping, all along the long white table

a quivering chin, a contorted face, a smile
or a laugh, and eyes meeting eyes
with a touch or a glance, and gazes drifting
to unknown places.

Life being Life
made brighter by
my Father's death.


Thank you Dad - for everything.

July 17, 2023
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What Price Freedom

7/4/2023

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Freedom is here! 

No, it's not, says the constriction in my chest, the slight thumping of my heart, and the story about its cause, and the subtle worry that comes with it. And in addition to the health problems, come thoughts of what else about this Shelly-life is problematic: no specifics come to mind, just a vague sense of bracing and contraction that feels like . . . limitation. That's the word! Limitation.

And then a door opens, not a big one mind you, but something opens nonetheless, with the simple recognition, acknowledgement of the truth, by putting a word to the feeling so that it fits like a key in a lock and when it turns, Click!, there's an opening and a shift.

What price freedom? My ego says I want it, but it clearly holds back, hangs on, prefers the constriction that remains over letting go. Because letting go means death, death of my separate sense of me-ness: Shelly hanging on to her Shelly-ness, her story about her life, what's wrong about it, what part's not good enough yet, what might happen in the future if she doesn't fix it now; all these things that Shelly likes to chew on, like a dog with a bone. It gives her a sense of, I'm doing something. It says, Hang on, hang on, hang on. Just hang on.

But the me-ness is sad and it's tired. And the pain in her chest breaks open like a cloud, releasing its rain as tears fall down, bringing relief and unclenching and opening into space, into nothingness, into freedom: no Shelly. 

And Freedom says, See? It's not so bad. All you did was let go. All you did was die.

​
Celebrating the freedom that is, that's always here, that's who you are, with love,
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The Things That Change Us

6/22/2023

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​We never know what's going to happen. We never know when some out-of-the-blue, stressful, terrible thing will shock us out of our perceived version of reality.

Reality is not what we think it is anyway - as I've come to find out. And this was made even more obvious in the wake of a bizarre accident involving one of my horses.

Sonny, my ancient, arthritic mare didn't show up for her dinner last Wednesday night. This wasn't terribly shocking since she sometimes lags behind the other horse. And frankly, at her age, I half expect to find her down, perhaps on death's door, perhaps already gone from heart failure or something. But nothing prepared me for the scene I came upon when I went to look for her.

She had fallen into a deep gully at one of the side creeks. She was mostly on her back, and had wedged herself in the hole between a tree and a concrete culvert pipe designed to route the water under a land bridge in the pasture.

In quiet shock I heard myself say, "Sonny, what have you done?" and I reached down to try to calm her, my other hand shaking as I started calling anybody and everybody I could think of. 

One of my neighbors arrived with his Navy Seal son, with a sling and a big-ass truck, and immersed himself in the mud and poison ivy to try to get the harness straps underneath and around her body to pull her out safely with the truck.

It was like a dream - the three of us and Sonny - in the dark by this time. Thoughts were thunk. Feelings were being felt, and sometimes words were spoken. But mostly it seemed like Life was just happening - crazy, unpredictable life - moving through us all with ideas and courage, frustration and calm, gentleness and fear, determination and surrender. 

I don't remember how many hours passed of repositioning and pulling and readjusting again before Life happened with an idea to reposition the sling and re-angle the truck and with a "Go! Go! Go!," Life pulled her out and she lay there - quiet, motionless - and us waiting - relieved, but still in uncertain suspense. Was she exhausted? Was she dying?

Then Life called the vet, who had been en route, who guided us with suggestions based on Sonny's breathing and gum color. While the men stayed with her, I ran to the house to fetch what the vet had suggested and then Life called and said "She's up!" and me, "What? Are you serious?"

And there she was, standing in the dark with her savior, and the sling (the kind he used to make for a living) gently looped around her neck to keep her from leaving before the vet arrived. "Sixteen minutes," she said.

It was after eleven o'clock and Life as the savior said," Sorry Shelly. I have to go. I have to get up to catch a plane in four hours. You OK 'til the vet gets here?" "Please go," I said, and hugged them both, speechless. 

The vet who arrived couldn't believe what she saw: Sonny, on her feet, calmly eating grass - lungs clear, heart rate a little high, but to be expected, gut sounds good, gum color good, minor cuts, nothing broken. A shot of steroids and, "I really didn't think this would be the outcome tonight," said Life as the vet. "I didn't either," I said. And we both knew what we meant.

And in the quiet shock and awe of a moonless night, the two of us made her comfortable in a corral with her buddy so I could monitor her overnight.

Life made love to me that night and in the days that followed. Normally shy and standoff-ish Sonny welcomed my strokes and words of reassurance. Texts from my friend, wife of the savior, "He's texting from the airport. 'How is Sonny?'" The other vet, the one who couldn't come, (tending a crisis with a much different outcome) responding to the picture I”d sent per her trouble-shooting request, "How is she?" "She's stable," I said. "On her feet." "What? OMG! Are you kidding me? A miracle!" And a partner who listened, all the next day and the day after that, as the adrenaline triggered an energy that was so old and seemingly unrelated, but wasn't.

Because it's all energy isn't it? It's all Life - life moving, life happening, as energy. We're inclined to call it good or horrible or bad or lucky. And yet Life doesn't see it that way. Life doesn't see it at all. Life is just doing what Life does.

And in the wake of the trauma, amidst the what if's and what almost happened and how to prevent it in the future, came the breakthrough.

Life broke through this human-resistant heart - its resistance to what is, what was, what might be. Resistance to feelings of shock and helplessness and a tendency to partly leave this dimension when it all gets too hard.

Life broke through any semblance of anything Shelly could do to try to harness or control the explosive, chaotic, ever-changing, unpredictable energy we call Life, blowing Shelly to bits, leaving only Life, seeing Itself as Life, inseparable from all Life - the eternal space, the eternal Is-ness, the only reality, home.
​

Thank you Life.
Thank you Sonny.
P.S.  As of this writing, Sonny is doing well: back to trudging up and down the big hill, carefully picking her way through the deep mud at creek crossings, and making nasty, mare-ish faces at her buddy - just because.
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