You both want the same things. You want to feel loved.
​You want to feel respected.

Then why does it seem so difficult?

​"Why," you ask yourself, "can't two intelligent people talk things through, figure out their problems, and come up with a solution that makes them both happy?"

​​The answer is this; while you seem to be communicating your feelings and speaking the truth . . . you probably aren't.
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Truth spoken from the logical thinking brain (or from the reactive emotional brain) is barely scratching the surface.
If you want to feel . . . 
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  • Deeper Intimacy
  • Real Connection and Closeness
  • Free of Blame and Criticism
  • Loved, Seen, and Heard

​in your relationship, then you want to learn how to speak the unarguable truth.

The Unarguable Truth

​is the truth that can't be argued about, the truth that melts your partner's defensives, the truth that melts your partner's heart, and invites understanding and compassion.
But it's not easy. It's scary. That's why it's also sometimes called The Dangerous Truth, because it requires you to dig deeper than you have before and discover the real reasons that you're hurt and unsatisfied. It's not for sissies. But,

If you're tired of . . .
  • Having the same fight over and over again
  • Whining about your partner to your friends
  • Feeling stressed-out or sick over your relationship
  • Letting it negatively impact your self-esteem
  • Having a sexless or sexually unsatisfying relationship
  • Struggling with whether you should leave or stay or whether or not your partner is the right one . . .

​Then perhaps it's time to get beneath the surface and ask the bodymind what's going on.
Shelly Smith's Body-Centered Counseling and Life Coaching approach, combines aspects of the Imago Relationship with the Body-Centered work of Drs. Gay and Kathlyn Hendricks, to help you and your partner get beneath the complaints, blame, and arguments, to access the truth - what's really going on - so that you can heal and grow . . . together.

What Makes This Approach Faster Than Traditional Couples Therapy?
How Accessing the Body Gets Us Closer to the Truth.
Shelly Smith explains how a body-centered or body-informed approach to couples counseling or coaching, is faster and more efficient than traditional talk-only approaches.
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